If you grew up with parents or caregivers dependent on substances or processes, the effects of trauma can be deeply woven into your sense of self. It's common for you to have become so attuned to others' needs that you struggle to recognise your own values and expectations. Often, you’ve adopted the values and expectations of those around you, carrying these into adulthood and finding themselves frustrated when striving to meet them.

The roles you developed in childhood, such as the Hero, Mascot, Lost Child, or Acting Out Child, continue to shape your core motivations. For instance, a Hero might believe the world works best when they look after everyone, while a Mascot might think it works best when they keep others laughing