Recovery means reclaiming every aspect of your life that the trauma of growing up with substance or process-dependent parents took from you, including your voice. This developmental trauma creates lasting neurobiological changes that affect how you relate to yourself and others. In families affected by this trauma, the powerful rule of "don't speak" maintains the status quo and follows you well into adulthood, manifesting in six key ways that impact your ability to connect, learn, and advocate for yourself.